If you promise something, people might not believe you until they see you actually do it. "Actions should meet verbal commitments, not conflict them. Image Credit “Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day.” ![]() ![]() You can’t buy it, you can have all the money in the world, but if you are not a moral and ethical person, you really have nothing.” - Henry Kravis “If you do not have integrity, you have nothing. It is easy to throw words around, but it requires integrity (honesty, honour, righteousness, morality, virtue, decency, fairness, sincerity, truthfulness, trustworthiness) to back them up with actions. Do not say things or make promises you do not intend to keep. We need to be constantly aware of our actions as it portrays our true character. What people do is more significant than what they say. “It isn’t what we say or think that defines us, but what we do.” – Jane Austen They pay too much attention to words and way too little to actions.“When all is said and done, more is always said than done.” They refuse to make note of how of the actions of another person define them. They hire a person, become friends with a person or even start a relationship with a person based on their words. Don’t be fooled by words that are contrary to their actions.Īll too often in life, people “fall in love” blindly. When someone you are with over time repeatedly and consistently demonstrates through their actions and deeds the pervasive characteristics present in them you must pay attention! If they are truly a good person or friend or employee you can trust you will see it in their actions. Oh, sure, some people can cover up their real personality characteristics from time to time, but if you are around them long enough you will learn who they really are. In reality, these pervasive characteristics define who you are. And recurring patterns of thought and behavior for the most part do not change when a person is an adult. These are “recurring patterns of thought and behavior” that defines a person – that tells us who they are. ![]() It’s never our fault when someone else hurts us, but it’s within our power to stop allowing it.Ī psychologist friend of mine reminds me from time to time about the “pervasive characteristics” present in human beings. We all deserve second chances, and sometimes a third or fourth.īut other times we need to open our eyes so that we know when enough is enough. We may recognize we’re being mistreated and choose to set and enforce a boundary. It’s recognizing the facts so that we can make a wise choice based on how things are-not how we want them to be. If someone says they want to change but repeatedly fails to make an effort, they are communicating that aren’t willing to do things differently.Īcknowledging this isn’t forming judgments. If someone says they value your friendship but then ignore you or avoid you when you are together you need to really question their intentions. If someone says they’re trustworthy but repeatedly lies, they are communicating that their word can’t be trusted. ![]() If someone says they want to spend time together but repeatedly fails to show up, they are communicating that they aren’t willing to follow through on their promises. And repeated actions are what shape our character and reputation. Whether it is an employee, coworker, a friend or someone you are in a relationship with- Actions speak louder than words. While I don’t believe any one action defines who someone is, I think there’s something to this.
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